Posts by John Free

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Fade Away Music Video, Randy M's Daughter...great song, great voice

by goingthruthemotions in

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i want to share this music video i came across while surfing youtube, this song is just a great song and it expresses how jw's are such fake people and fake friends.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-msy5fzrqb0.

she is an amazing singer!!!!

John Free

Hi goingthrough!

Thanks for sharing, watchtower certainly cause a lot of pain...It shattered my family, and many thousands of others.

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Sub CO and Wife, both Reg Pioneers, go back to NC to live with his Parents

by James Jack in

this couple both in their mid 30's, lived with me for awhile and i gave them employment, because they are both regular pioneers and married right out of high school, also because i am that kind a of guy that likes to help people.

various friends have been helping them out for years, so i guess it was my turn to help them out.. the brother got stupid with me, so i told him i had enough of them both and that it was time for them to go elsewhere.. the co loved them so much, the pioneer elder was made cobe in another congregation and a sub co. the brother also got to conduct pioneer service school.

(so he is a hot shot now).

John Free

I remember in my old congregation a pioneer brother who was often commenting about how Jehovah always provides for him...he has been living on benefits for years! Yep Jehovah provides- through the state welfare system!

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I miss my family so much. I thought I was over it but I have breakdowns every few months thinking about my family

by macys in

as most of you know i have been shunned by my family for 2 years because of a photo posted on facebook of me kissing another girl at a party.

the matter was not dealt with fairly but it is over now and i am 100% certain that jdub org is a cult.

but i miss my family so much.

John Free

Its such a tough call, there are lots of sound comments on here for you to weigh up and I don't think I can add anything. I just wanted to say i have been following your story and it is a moving one, and there are many people on here rooting for you.

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Do you have post-borg reunion stories?

by John Free in

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six months ago i knocked on my sister's door.

she was shocked to see me "god johnfree, who has died" she said smiling.

she was disfellowshipped 20 years ago.. i had not seen her for years.

John Free

Six months ago I knocked on my sister's door. She was shocked to see me "God JohnFree, who has died" she said smiling. She was disfellowshipped 20 years ago.

I had not seen her for years. My first words to her were "I've left it", I went on to apologise for cutting her out of my life for the last 2 decades, I know, an apology doesn't quite make up for it. Nevertheless, she held absolutely no bitterness towards me, and a strong relationship is growing between us and our families, which is so good! Cousins playing together etc. I'm fortunate to have her! She was the first of 14 members of my extended family to leave the Borg, only 7 remain in (not including those born since). There have been many reunions over the years. Things were really tough for her when she was disfellowhipped at 18, the very age a person needs parental guidance and love. But now she has so many friends around her and much of her family. While things do not always work out this well, there is hope, people will wake up.

Do you have similar reunion stories?

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What I Hate About Halloween....

by konceptual99 in

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....is that it has totally wiped away the distinct celebration of november 5th and bonfire night.

fireworks and bonfires are still ubiquitous this time of year but it's just merged in with halloween which, whilst always being celebrated, was not as promoted and so overwhelming as it is now.. bring back the guy!.

John Free

I have been out for just over 6 months. I never thought I would ever do Halloween, but the family got invited to a party, we had a great time! My daughter went trick or treating with her school friends...she loved it! She's really excited about firework night now! I was worried about her when we first left, she was crying when I told her that we would not be attending meetings anymore, and that hurt. Now she's deprogrammed, much more confident and so much more happy. Boy its gonna be a short winter! Bring on the fireworks...

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My experience with religion

by Cota Samuel in

hello, i am sam(samuel).

i am 18 and i live in romania.

my english is not that good and i find it hard to express myself even in my language xd.. i'm not an open person and i would've probaly never talked so open of my life but this "event" had so much impact on my life and it damaged me so deeply that i do now write this.. i came to this site to help myself fight the problem that destroyed my life for the past 2 years.

John Free

Hello Sam.

Thanks for sharing your story. You sound like a sincere person and that sincerity has been abused by this group. I was reading a watchtower study article last night for the first time in 6months, the control and manipulation within them is unbelievable. It amazes me that I couldn't see that before while in, but you're so conditioned to accept mental abuse.

Its a very tough life lesson you've had and we all relate to the trauma you have been through.

Best wishes with the rest of your life friend!

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Hello everyone! I am new here and want to tell you about myself - my bio

by Hollywood20 in

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grew up in east la in a bad neighborhood to a black mother and white father.

i never knew my father because he died in a car accident when i was a few weeks old.

my mother converted as a jw soon after when two sisters came to her door and offered her comfort, which was something she needed.

John Free

Well hello to you! And thanks for telling your story!

Its so sad that pressure and guilt were used to stop you doing what you wanted to do with your life. There are many on this site that are bearing the consequences of being raised in this group, intelligent people with such potential washing windows etc. The fact is that the sooner you can find the courage to get out the better! It is a matter of courage for you now that you know it is not the truth. I also had to cause my indoctrinated mother heartbreak and that is not something any man wants to do, nevertheless it is unavoidable.

Best wishes to you!

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Hello from an exmormon

by Cold-Dodger in

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someone named john free popped in on one of my posts at exmormon[dot]com and mentioned this website.

i have a lot of questions.

i never knew much about about the jw church.

John Free

Hello cold dodger!

Really enjoyed your post, both this one and the exmormon forum! its amazing how the two religions\cults are poles apart theologically, yet the key elements of cult mind control are almost identical!

I can relate to what you've said in so many ways for example the 3 categories of people strong, weak and apostates. That's identical among the jw community, ex members who have re-discovered their critical thinking abilities are demonized\stigmatised by the group. I viewed my own family members in this way for years and have only begun building relationships with them in the last 6 months.

Reading the comments on your Mormon post was part of a healing process for me. To hear from others who also once thought their religion was the truth, helps me to see that the jw's are not as special and unique as I once thought. That others too fell victim to a convincing, seemingly flawless body of teachings-only really held together by control mechanisms.

So thank you for your great posts

Warm regards!

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